Coming Out Stories
Here are some coming out stories from LGBT people in India, many from the MP group associated with Orinam. As you read the essays linked below, remember that the coming out process is likely to vary tremendously depending on your age, gender, family circumstances and economic independence, environment and experiences as an immigrant, second-generation (or later) member of the diaspora, or as a resident in your country of origin
.Further, (i) for some – but not all – people who are queer/trans, non-conforming gender expression gives them away as queer/trans – they don’t have the luxury of hiding their queerness because the gender expression itself attracts hostility and violence. For such people, not being visible is not an option. (ii) While it is true that coming out helps in greater visibility and in reducing stereotypes about queer/trans people, it is not a universal solution. Self-preservation and safety should take precedence. There can be unhealthy peer pressure to come out which must be tackled.
We hope that the following accounts inspire you in your journey towards coming out to yourself and consider carefully the possibilities of coming out to others. We encourage you to send in your experiences to us. Experiences of coming out post-377 are especially welcome.
Yes, I am
I recently came out to a really close friend. She could not have been more supportive. Though this was unexpected, she said she was extremely proud of me. While this…
Dykotomy: growing up lesbian in India
Photo courtesy author Lesbian. Lezbian. Lez-beeyun. I took the longest time to say the word. Even longer to put my name in front of it. When…
My Bisexual Story: Suri
Photo source: author I don’t remember her name but I remember her face. Big eyes and two ponytails. Cutest girl in the class. In second standard,…
Ancy and Andy
[Image source: futurity.org]Each coming out story is a testimony of how beautifully diverse we all are. Despite our loves, attractions, ages, skin colors or castes, each…
Acceptance and Denial
Germany, May 13, 2012: I ended the call with a heavy feeling in my chest. I decided on a warm bath to clear my head and help me focus. In the…
Video: I am Trans
Playwright and performer Deen shares his story in this truly amazing video, made for TransPeopleSpeak.org Deen is a transman of South Indian origin. DeenThePlaywright.weebly.com
It Gets Better – Cummins Inc, USA
It Gets Better video from Cummins Inc, USA. Video includes Sameer Samudra from India.
It Gets Better – Sarav Chidambaram
Sarav Chidambaram was born in Coimbatore, India, and now lives in Massachusetts, United States. Sarav is a software professional, a renowned dancer, a passionate film maker and a dedicated LGBT…
Brenda’s letter to her parents [coming out as trans]
Orinam.net thanks Brenda for sharing this letter, through which she recently came out to her parents in Chennai. B- August, 2011 – Hi Mom and Dad,- I haven’t had any…
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